Karpman Drama Triangle
As a social beings, we tend to be involved in dramas surrounding us, where we play the role of…
1. Victim- “Poor Me”
Those who play the role of victim see that they are not able to control. They might keep on asking, “Why did this happen to me?”. They feel powerless to resist or to make changes by themselves.
Victims often complain, hesitate to decide, or feel pathetic.
2. Rescuer- “Let me help you”
Rescuers take on the role of a hero who seeks to help others. They will feel guilty if they are not able to help. The reason underlying this is that they are escaping their problem. They help others in other to feel good about themselves.
This is not beneficial for victims because they will never stop playing the victim role.
3. Prosecutor- “It’s all your fault”
Prosecutors are those who take control over others. They put pressure on others and make them feel inferior by undermining them. They attempt to get rid of insecurity or the feeling of lack of control.
Ask yourself, ‘Which role do I play the most in your life?’
Is it possible to get rid of this cycle?
David Emerald Womeldorf suggests that you can step back from the drama by adopting the ‘The Empowerment Dynamic’ in your character.
Instead of being a victim, you can be creators who can take responsibility for our life, listen to our needs, and be oriented toward solutions and goals.
Instead of being a rescuer, you can be a coach who asks powerful questions to make people become masters of their fate and stay on their ground.
Instead of being a prosecutor who put others down to feel superior, you can be a challenger who can stimulate change.
Get out of the dramas and make a better life story.
Let’s Learn and Grow Together.
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